I was listening to a podcast not too long ago and they were discussing RBF. I had no idea what that was, so I googled it. The first thing I found was “rat bite fever”. Uh, no. This couldn’t possibly be it. Needless to say, there is treatment for this if you ever get it.
I scrolled to the next explanation and found something that more fit the bill – “resting bitch face”. What? Is this a thing? It did fit the context of the podcast…
Resting bitch face (RBF) is a facial expression that unintentionally creates the impression that a person is angry, annoyed, irritated, or contemptuous, particularly when the individual is relaxed, resting, or not expressing any particular emotion.
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Contrary to the “B” in RBF, this can apply to both male and females. One gender doesn’t own the market. It made me wonder if I had RBF, or if I exuded a sense of coldness when my face was “resting”. I had no idea, so of course, I looked in the mirror. Not the most scientific test, but hey, what else can I do. Yeah, there may be a 50/50 chance RBF kicked in without me knowing it. That made me think I should be a little more conscious of this. Maybe take my smile out of my back pocket a little more. This is probably not the most important thing to bring with me at all times, but something that is recently on top of mind. Smiling more never hurt anyone.
In 1979, The English Beat came out with a cover of Smokey Robinson and the Miracles’ Tears of a Clown. I’ve always loved this song because they took a ska twist to a classic soulful song and also the imagery of sadness hidden behind a smile. Yes, this may be on the different end of the spectrum than RBF, but when I thought about songs with a smile, this one immediately came to mind. I don’t tend to wear my raw emotions on my sleeve, so I imagine I may have Tears of a Clown syndrome as well. Oh man, double gut punch. Not only is there is a chance I have RBF, I may have TOC also. That’s way too much to think about on a Saturday morning. I much rather just sit back and enjoy the music.
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Say oh yeah baby baby Now if there's a smile on my face It's only there tryin' to fool the public But when it comes down to foolin' you Now honey that's quite a different subject So don't let my glad expression Give you the wrong impression Cos really I'm sad (so sad sad) Oh I'm sadder than sad (so sad sad) Well I'm hurt and I want you so bad (so sad sad) Like a clown I appear to be glad Ooh yeah There's some sad things known to man But ain't too much sadder than The tears of a clown When there's no one around Say oh yeah baby baby baby Oh yeah baby baby baby Now if I appear to be carefree It's only to camouflage my sadness And honey to shield my pride I try To cover this hurt with a show of gladness So don't let my show convince you That I've been happy since you decided to go Oh I need you so
I had a friend in college who looked extremely angry whenever he walked alone. His sole purpose was go get from point A to point B and he didn’t even notice that people literally moved out of his way. He was honestly a really sweet person, but man his RBF was awesome to behold.
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i’ve been told that i have rbf, which i’m trying to be more cognizant of -_-
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I’ve been, too. It’s an odd term, but I can see how it applies!
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