It’s Saturday night. We are at a local bar drinking. A friend drunkenly suggests that we all get tattoos the next day. We all lift our glasses and cheers yes!
The next morning, we plan our trip to the tattoo parlor. One of my roommates looks up and says, “Oh, you were serious?”
Four of us flip through books looking at the different tattoo art. A few of us had already been thinking about getting tattoos for awhile. We are a little nervous, but it wasn’t only a drunken thought. When the tattoo artist calls, “Next!”, my roommate hesitates.
Now, tattoos are permanent. It also goes without saying, this was thirty years ago when tattoos were not the mainstream everyday norm. So if my roommate said, “Hey guys. I’m having second thoughts. I need to think about this some more”, we’d surely give him a pass. Who wouldn’t? But he said something entirely different. Even if it was his honest to goodness thought, you don’t says this in front of the guys.
I have to ask my girlfriend first.
The silence was deafening.
Personally, I was going to let it pass. After all, it’s a tattoo. It’s not an easy decision. Regardless of the reason, it’s OK to take your time deciding. Unfortunately, my other friends were not so forgiving. No one cared that he was hesitating about the tattoo, but the fact he needed to get permission. . . My roommate was bombarded with a barrage of comments questioning his manhood. I just shook my head in silence. Poor guy.
Needless to say, he went back weeks later and got a tattoo. Did he get one because he wanted it? Did his girlfriend give him the a-ok? Was the peer pressure too much? Questions we’ll never truly know the answer to. I suspect it’s probably a little bit of each. Some things can be more scarring than a tattoo. After all, a tattoo is only ink and it eventually dries. But the sting from a barrage of man up comments from your friends sometimes never goes away.
Because Dave Navarro was a host and judge on Ink Masters, it seemed fitting to add a Jane’s Addiction song to the playlist. Jane Says was released in 1987. It turns out, there really was a Jane.
According to lead singer Perry Farrell, there was an actual Jane – with an actual heroin habit and an abusive boyfriend named Sergio – who lived with him and nearly a dozen others in a group house in Hollywood as the band was forming in the early ’80s. She talked endlessly about scrimping for a jaunt to Europe: “Jane says, ‘I’m going away to Spain, when I get my money saved,” and she took an occasional swipe at a housemate, but she never seemed to connect: “She gets mad and starts to cry, takes a swing but she can’t hit.”
“Around 1984, I rented a big house on Wilton, near Hancock Park, right in the heart of everything good in Hollywood, but the whole neighborhood seemed deteriorated. I deceived the landlord into thinking I was a gay interior decorator rather than a Punk rocker, and one of my housemates was Jane, this strangely beautiful, well-to-do girl who got caught up in the drug scene and fell in love with a dealer named Sergio. Jane was an intellectual and knew how to act aristocratic, even with a needle and a spoon on the table. I’m not sure if the song mythologized the neighborhood – St. Andrew’s Place is nothing special to look at – but I do think it glamorized her life in a way. That was a great time, though. When the landlord found out I wasn’t a gay interior decorator, he came after me with a gun.”
– Songfacts
Jane inspired both the name of the band and their hit song. Not a bad day’s work. Not that they needed to, but I doubt they asked her permission to use her name. It’s a good thing my roommate wasn’t in the band. There’s no telling what the name of the song or the band would have turned out to be. Maybe we should ask his girlfriend.
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Jane says
I'm done with Sergio
He treat me like a rag-doll
She hides
The television
Says I don't owe him nothing,
But if he come back again
Tell him, wait right here for me
Or
Try again tomorrow
I'm gonna kick tomorrow
I'm gonna kick tomorrow
Jane says
Have you seen my wig around?
I feel naked without it
She knows
They all want her to go
But that's O.K. man
She don't like them anyway
Jane says
I'm going away to Spain
When I get my money saved
I'm gonna start tomorrow
I'm gonna kick tomorrow
I'm gonna kick tomorrow
She get mad
and she start to cry
She take a swing man
She can't hit
She don't mean no harm
She just don't know (Don't know, don't know)
What else to do about it
Jane goes
To the store at 8:00
She walks up on St. Andrew's
She waits
And gets her dinner there
She pulls her dinner
From her pocket
Jane says
I ain't never been in love
I don't know what it is
She only knows if someone wants her
I wonder if they want me
I only know they want me
She gets mad
And she starts to cry
She takes a swing man
She can't hit!
She don't mean no harm
She just don't know (Don't know, don't know)
What else to do about it
Jane says
Jane says
My son is at this age and I think I know exactly what comments were made when your friend said he had to ask his girlfriend. I’ve been the girlfriend too…poor Jane, I hope she kicked that habit and made it to Spain
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Fortunately, I think he was ok with the tattoo. It’s when he first got it, I used to wonder. And yes, poor Jane. A trip to Spain and turning her life around would be the perfect happy ending.
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Great description of you guys at the tattoo parlor. I can just picture it!
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Interesting backstory of the song! Crazy. Also I ♥️ ink master, was definitely guilty of binging the show and made me want to get tattooed! I never did though haha
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Haha! Great story! I grew up with three brothers, so I can just imagine how they mocked him. Poor guy. I noticed that you didn’t mention what tattoo YOU got. ;)
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Haha… so you understand guy dynamics! It was a little bit of a train wreck.
I did get one. I decided on Japanese characters with with a personal meaning. It hurt, but not as much as I thought it would. I’m not against getting another one. The first one was the hurdle!
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Love this song. Jane’s Addiction’s best.
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I agree
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but did *you* get a tat that night?
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I did. It’s on my upper back shoulder so I don’t think about it that often these days. I forget that’s it’s there. Maybe one day I’ll get a second one.
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I could see the guy having to talk to a wife, or even a fiancée before getting a tattoo, but. his GIRLFRIEND?
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Yeah, I know. It was unfortunate he didn’t have his filter on. I asked his girlfriend about it. She laughed and said “Why would he need to ask me?” I think he must have just been nervous. He should have just said he wanted to think about it. We would have said we understand. It’s funny when I think about it
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That awesome 🤣
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Great song. “Been Caught Stealing” is my favorite song of theirs, but this is a close second.
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That’s a great song. I’m with you on that one.
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I felt like an outsider most of the time in high school and even sometimes in young adulthood with the dudebro shit most guys around me pulled. Hierarchy from a young age. “Man up.” Your friend was courageous.
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I’m not a fan of toxic masculinity. Usually most outgrow it. Every once in awhile I meet grown men who still exhibit this behavior and it makes me scratch my head.
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Same here. And while I don’t have hard evidence, I feel the percentage growing out of it is declining with misogyny becoming glorified and amplified at the “highest” levels of society.
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Sadly, I think you might be right.
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😂 hahaha
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Tattoos are addicting to get. I love them personally. It’s a form of art and tells the persons story
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I agree. A lot of the artwork is amazing
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