I was reading Bloom Planted North’s post about friendship. She has a friend that frequently is at odds with her not so ideal boyfriend and despite the agonizing time and energy she invests in the friendship, she is always there to support her. I admire her patience and loyalty. Not many people could expend that much energy.
It reminded me of a time when a friend was having trouble with his girlfriend. She would get upset whenever he spent time with anyone besides her. He once told me he was in the doghouse because he spent the morning picking up groceries for his sick mother. I just listened and bit my tongue. I didn’t understand why he stayed with her, but I lent an ear and listened as he blew off steam.
One day he called me and said he was done. They broke up. At that point I felt I held a hall pass to go off and not hold back. I started off with something like this.
Dude, that bitch is crazy. You should have dumped her long ago.
And there was plenty more where that came from. He nodded as he listened to my rant. Why not? She was ancient history, right?
Well, not quite.
A few months later I bump into them randomly in the city. Turns out, they were now engaged. I smiled and politely congratulated them. It was awkward, I’ll admit. On my end because it wasn’t that long ago I was calling her a crazy bitch. And he was a little embarrassed because he knew it was a weird backtrack into this challenging relationship. Oh well, I thought. Not my life. But after that incident, I implemented a one year gag rule before I could talk shit about someone’s ex. Better safe than sorry.
The good news is that they’ve been happily married for over fifteen years. They have a few kids and she turned out to be a wonderful person. I’ll chalk up her earlier behavior to immaturity. I’m glad they proved me wrong.
Today’s song choice is the Talking Heads’ Psycho Killer. Not because she is a deranged murderer as the song suggests. I just like the lines:
fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa far better
Run run run run run run run away
And in my rant, I did tell him to get as far away from her as possible. Far, far, far away. Fortunately he didn’t take my advice from the peanut gallery.
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I can't seem to face up to the facts
I'm tense and nervous and I
Can't relax
I can't sleep 'cause my bed's on fire
Don't touch me I'm a real live wire
Psycho Killer
Qu'est-ce que c'est ?
fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa far better
Run run run run run run run away
Psycho Killer
Qu'est-ce que c'est ?
fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa far better
Run run run run run run run away
You start a conversation you can't even finish it
You're talkin' a lot, but you're not sayin' anything
When I have nothing to say, my lips are sealed
Say something once, why say it again?
Psycho Killer
Qu'est-ce que c'est ?
fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa far better
Run run run run run run run away
Psycho Killer
Qu'est-ce que c'est ?
fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa far better
Run run run run run run run away
Ce que j'ai fait, ce soir-là
Ce qu'elle a dit, ce soir-là
Réalisant mon espoir
Je me lance, vers la gloire ... OK
We are vain and we are blind
I hate people when they're not polite
Psycho Killer
Qu'est-ce que c'est ?
fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa far better
Run run run run run run run away
Psycho Killer
Qu'est-ce que c'est ?
fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa far better
Run run run run run run run away
oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh....
I had totally forgotten about that song! Love the fa-fa-fa and run-run-run parts. 🙂
I’ve also learned the hard way to keep my opinions to myself regarding relationships.
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