When I was in college, we used to go to this club in downtown Los Angeles. It was in a seedy part of downtown and housed in a converted warehouse. It had three floors, each with a different music vibe. One floor had hip hop/rap music. Another floor up had techno/dance music. The third floor was alternative rock. The third floor was the least popular of the three, but more my style of music. My friends didn’t share my taste in music and we hung out mostly on the other two floors with dance music. I was cool with it because it was fun to party with friends and let’s face it. That’s where the girls were. But I’d occasionally drift off to the top floor to have a drink and listen to some good music.
Music taste is just the tip of the iceberg. I’m pretty different from my friends in many other ways. They are hard core sports fans and can recite stats, players and backstories from all different sports teams. I follow a few teams and am a loyal fan. They’ve been consumed raising their kids. I married later in life and missed that window of opportunity. They love the city. I love being in the mountains. They are guy’s guys, thankfully without the toxic masculinity. I’d call myself masculine, but I’m left of them on the bro scale. Many of them are extroverted. I lean introverted. They work out to relieve stress. I write an anonymous blog for the same effect.
I remember once leaving the club and my friends asked where I disappeared to. Third floor, I replied. They just nodded and said, Cool. That’s how it’s always been, me sometimes on a different floor. And even with the divide, we’ve remained good friends ever since. They just chalk it up to me being me and don’t give it a second thought. Cool.
I doubt today’s song is in any one of my friend’s CD collection. It’s one that I picked up when I was a kid in the car listening to my mom’s radio station. Cat Stevens released If You Want to Song Out, Sing Out in 1971. It’s a song that celebrates individuality.
The song is about finding your freedom through your individuality. About doing what you want, no matter what anyone thinks or says. It soft sounds and upbeat chorus help you to understand the happiness that can come to you when you stop living your life by other peoples standards and stick to your own.
I think it’s great that we don’t give a shit about our differences. That’s possibly a value add to our friendship. What does connect us are our shared core values. I think that goes further along on the yard stick. Well, that and our love for Vegas. There’s nothing like having drinks during an all night blackjack binge to help cement a friendship.
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Well, if you want to sing out, sing out
And if you want to be free, be free
'Cause there's a million things to be
You know that there are
And if you want to live high, live high
And if you want to live low, live low
'Cause there's a million ways to go
You know that there are
You can do what you want
The opportunity's on
And if you find a new way
You can do it today
You can make it all true
And you can make it undo
You see, ah ah ah
It's easy, ah ah ah
You only need to know
Well, if you want to say yes, say yes
And if you want to say no, say no
'Cause there's a million ways to go
You know that there are
And if you want to be me, be me
And if you want to be you, be you
'Cause there's a million things to do
You know that there are
You can do what you want
The opportunity's on
And if you find a new way
You can do it today
You can make it all true
And you can make it undo
You see, ah ah ah
It's easy, ah ah ah
You only need to know
Well, if you want to sing out, sing out
And if you want to be free, be free
'Cause there's a million things to be
You know that there are
You know that there are
You know that there are
You know that there are
You know that there are
Nicely made connections. I have to admit I am a conformist in many ways, or maybe it’s closer to say that I am easily swayed to friends’ tastes. Isn’t it funny how we all like to say we’re individuals, but some of us less so than others?
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Maybe not a conformist, but open to friend’s taste and interest. I think there is a wide range of degrees with everything. Most things I’m ok with, but I may like it at a lesser degree than others. I’ll may tag along, even if it’s not my cup of tea. Sometimes it’s the company that sways me to join.
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I love how you called the alternative music the good music. We are a team. 🙌🏼
Although, in higher school, I used to like Eminem and Jay-Z (maybe because if his romance with Beyoncé.)
I don’t listen to hip hop or rap anymore, but I don’t mind being around friends listening to that type of music.
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High school* typo 🙄
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We are like minded!
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I like the song! Thank you for sharing!
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I’ve heard this song, but not for a very long time. It’s the perfect outside band song when on vacation near a beach. 🙂
Relate strongly to this story and your observations, though wish I’d come to peace about it sooner… in needing more space than some and being drawn to different rhythms. People have often taken it personally, so I think you’re very fortunate in having longtime friends that instead appreciate those qualities.
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I’m pretty fortunate. I’ve got a good group of friends. Differences can be a touchy thing. It really can go either way.
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You have some wonderful friends, which is another rare find.
Happy Easter!
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Hope you enjoyed your Easter!
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It was a good day, thankyou.
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Nice song choice… thought I knew all his, but this was my first time hearing of it! The tri-level music venue sounds pretty cool.
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The three floor club was cool. Seems like eons ago!
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