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My wife always asks me where I want to eat on my birthday. She’s always shocked when I suggest some greasy spoon or hole in the wall joint. Why? She asks. I tell her because I’ve basically cut these out of my life as regular options to choose from. Eating unhealthy greasy food has become a treat.
But really, though. I have no interest in celebrating my birthday and that’s the other part of the reason. Not because each additional year brings on trauma. They don’t in the least. I just don’t care for the fuss or attention. I did have to make an exception when I turned 50. My wife put her foot down and organized a nice dinner with friends and family. I didn’t have a choice. And she’s been hinting that there will be another one at the next upcoming milestone birthday. I have no idea which one she’s pointing at. I just put on my blinders and ear buds and pretend I didn’t see or hear anything. Out of sight, out of mind.
I looked up restaurant songs and was pleasantly surprised to find Tom’s Diner on the list. I hadn’t heard this one in a long time.
Suzanne Vega wrote this song while eating breakfast at Tom’s Restaurant on the corner of Broadway and 112th Street in New York City. Tom’s has another famous place in pop culture as well: it was Jerry Seinfeld’s hangout in his hit sitcom Seinfeld. On the show, where it was called “Monk’s Cafe,” the “Tom’s” was cropped out so the exterior sign just said “Restaurant,” and the interior shots were done with TV magic on a sound stage.
It turns out this was originally an acapella song until DNA sampled it into a dance track in 1990. Such a different vibe from the original. Vega was amused by the version, agreed to release it but thought it would only find a small audience. It turns out, it sold over 3 million copies.
I thought it was cool that she was open to a completely different interpretation of her song. Embracing a different version and letting others celebrate another take on it isn’t easy for everyone. And it feels like there’s a lesson in there for me. Maybe I need to rethink my low key attitude towards my birthday. Instead of my quiet acapella version, I should throw in a few dance beats, spice it up a bit and embrace the celebration. It’s difficult for me to completely flip the switch on things. I prefer a gradual approach. I think step one is choosing with nicer restaurants. The ones with cloth napkins, nice cocktails and cool ambiance. Why not? It only comes around once a year. I should enjoy it.
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I am sitting in the morning
At the diner on the corner
I am waiting at the counter
For the man to pour the coffee
And he fills it only halfway
And before I even argue
He is looking out the window
At somebody coming in
"It is always nice to see you"
Says the man behind the counter
To the woman who has come in
She is shaking her umbrella
And I look the other way
As they are kissing their hellos
And I'm pretending not to see them
And instead I pour the milk
I open up the paper
There's a story of an actor
Who had died while he was drinking
It was no one I had heard of
And I'm turning to the horoscope
And looking for the funnies
When I'm feeling someone watching me
And so I raise my head
There's a woman on the outside
Looking inside, does she see me?
No, she does not really see me
'Cause she sees her own reflection
And I'm trying not to notice
That she's hitching up her skirt
And while she's straightening her stockings
Her hair has gotten wet
Oh, this rain, it will continue
Through the morning as I'm listening
To the bells of the cathedral
I am thinking of your voice
And of the midnight picnic once upon a time
Before the rain began...
And I finish up my coffee
And it's time to catch the train
Da-da-da-da, da-da-da-da
Da-da-da-da, da-da-da-da
Da-da-da, da-da-da-da
Da-da-da-da, da-da-da-da
I would guess she’s thinking 55 or even 60. But you better be careful: because she might pull the “your birthday only comes once a year, so every birthday is a milestone!“ on you.
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Haha… so true!
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I forgot about this song!! Gonna download it now!
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I’d forgotten about it, too!
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I love this version
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Me, too
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Good to switch it up, sometimes. Novelty keeps us young!
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i heart this song so much and hbd!
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I have a poor track record for surprise birthday parties. I had an emotional breakdown when my soon-to-be husband surprised me on my 18th birthday. Since then, his family has gone easy on me for those milestone birthdays, leaving little clues and even telling me outright to be prepared. I’m like you…I’m not good with all the attention and being in the spotlight. Now, I just enjoy a simple meal with my immediate family and play some games.
Hope your birthday is everything you imagine it to be! It’s ok to take one day a year to celebrate you! 🙂
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Oooh! I just clicked the link to the song and I LOVE this song! Such a catchy beat and love the storytelling lyrics! Awesome choice!
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It is a fun song!
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Spending time with your family sounds like a wonderful way to celebrate your birthday!
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I remember not liking this song when it was released and having just popped it on I now remember why. I actually find the beat somewhat irritating.
Birthdays are a very personal thing. I’m definitely a celebrator but when I met my husband he was very much “ it’s just another day”. For 10 years I made a real effort to ensure he had a wonderful celebration and then this year I decided to stop. A couple of weeks before his birthday he said to me “ what are we doing on my birthday?”. To which I replied “ for ten years you have been telling me there’s no need to celebrate, it’s just another day”. The surprise and disappointment on his face was a picture to behold and he back-pedalled at 50 mph realising that nothing was going to happen on his special day. Luckily I had a back up plan n he got to enjoy it as usual.
The moral of the story “ be careful what you wish for” 😊
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That’s a great story! Thanks for sharing it! I’m imagining your husband secretly enjoying the day you planned on his birthday. Sounds wonderful! Thank goodness for your backup plan!
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Embrace the celebration for sure!
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I remember the original so well from her Solitude Standing album. I know I’ve heard the dance track too, but the backstory is so interesting. Thanks!
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I can’t remember if I heard the original version or only the dance version. I watched a bunch of different versions when writing this post and I was surprised to see a lot of acapella performances. It was pretty fun hearing the different versions.
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